What You Really Really Want: The Smart Girl's Shame-Free Guide to Sex and Safety

In this empowering guide, Jaclyn Friedman—co-editor of Yes Means Yes—equips young women with the tools to navigate today’s confusing and hypersexualized environment while defining their own sexual identities. She critiques the cultural hypocrisy that labels women as failures for not being sexy yet shames them for pursuing sex. Friedman encourages readers to separate fear from fact, decode harmful messages, and embrace a healthy sexuality.

What You Really Really Want is educational and interactive, featuring quizzes, creative exercises, and practical advice about modern sex and relationships. With Friedman’s guidance, readers will learn to express their sexuality safely and effectively communicate about sensitive topics with family and friends, ultimately contributing to a safer environment for everyone’s sexual expression.